Practice makes better.

You need to be kinder to yourself when you are learning a new skill.

It’s like a teaching a child to read or write for the first time. They don’t bring home their first project from school and you go “Woooww that’s terrible! I can hardly read that! You should give up now little dude”

Of course not! You say, “That’s amazing, I can’t believe you wrote that! You are getting better and better watch time, keep going buddy”

Why not afford yourself the same grace when learning a new skill? 

Sooo you messed up the first time, and second time that’s ok! You didn’t fail, you learned and next time you will be better. 

You can do it! 

Practise your new skills every day. 

If you want to get paid more than a lawyer or a doctor does then you need to invest the time to study too. To hone your craft.

It’s like a student doctor going nahhh I don’t learn that I will just start with surgery.

As Eric Worre said “ If you don’t study, if you don’t practise you are going out there like a blunt instrument on the world” 

Are you willing to invest in you? For things to change YOU have to change, for things to get better YOU have to get better. 

Your income will never exceed your personal growth or your investment in yourself. 

Personal growth and development will make you better, stronger, wiser! 

If you have no time…when turn your car into a drive time university. There are spaces and pockets in our everyday which we can use to make things better.

If you have no time now…invest more of it…so that in the future you can become free of its constraints. 

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You have a choice.

May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears - Nelson Mandela

If you like helping people this business will give you everything you need. We all want to be part of something bigger than ourselves. It gives people purpose so they can follow their passion. 

It’s about freedom.

Everyone wants to feel free.

Everyone dreams of a life where they can have that freedom of choice, financial freedom, the ability to live how and where you want. 

But it can’t just be about you. the world doesn’t owe you anything.

It’s about being part of something bigger.

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Get the monster under control.

What is your first response in a crisis? 

Learn to recognise the emotional response in you and what are your triggers. What can you control?

Anger? Worry? What could happen? 

Learn your pattern, what’s your response?

It’s either going to serve you or slow you down. Most of these feelings have done nothing but steal days and weeks of your life. They haven’t helped you, they don’t move you forward, infact they have stalled you.

You can’t get those days back. We all have a voice in our head that’s tells us the story. Are you in control on that voice or has it become a monster? 

If you have a monster that feeds on negative emotion that it will never get enough and you will get a patten. 

Feeling anger or frustration with a crisis.

You can loose a year that way, stuck in worry, doubt and anger

You don’t have to be.

Get the monster under control.

You are in charge .

Your attitude

Your percepective

Your emotions

Your judgements

Your decision. 

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Secret Life Hack

One Thing you can do right now to work out what you want. 

If you can’t work out what you want to do with your life when work out what you don’t want. Often it’s an easier mindset for people to tap into at first. 

Once you have worked out what you don’t want in your life, then write a list of 5 successful people that you admire. 

What is it about them that you like? What similar traits do you they have? What traits do you have in common with them?

Chances are you admire them as they are some things in them you see in yourself and that’s what resonates in you.

Ask yourself…what would I do for no money? What do others say you are great at all the time?

Often we know exactly what we need to do  or what we would love to be doing it’s just a matter of unlocking those skills, or at least admitting them to ourselves! 

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The Top 5 Traits of Successful Entrepreneurs.

Everyone dreams of a life where they can have freedom of choice. Freedom from the 9-5, freedom of time and eventually financial freedom. But do you have what it takes?

1. True grit

Having true grit means that you can see the long goal, you have a powerful motivation to achieve the long goal and this perseverance means you can get over any hurdles or obstacles that fall into your path along the way. You are the driving force to realising your own dreams and goals and you don’t let challenges stand in your way. 

Being on entrepreneur requires dedication and endurance. 

2. Positive thinkers

The physical and mental benefits of being a positive thinker is so greatly overlooked. Words that you speak, not just out loud, but also to yourself have the power to transform the energy around you and either create a wonderful reality or conjure up a shit storm. 

Positive thinkers understand business is hard but their attitude means they are willing to work through the hard times and they have an expectation of success and happiness. It’s not about ignoring the tough times, it’s about thinking, “What am I learning here?” and not “Why me?” It’s an key part to effective stress management too. 

3. Never stop growing and learning

Being a student of the world around you not only means you learn the new skills you need to run your business, it also means that you can get rid of old beliefs and assumptions and open your mind to new ideas and information. Your personal growth is just as important as your business growth if you want to be a success. Being open minded also means you will be coachable. Learning from what successful people in network marketing have done and following the systems in place for you gives you your best chance of smashing this business. 

4. They show up.

Showing up is making committed, consistent effort in your business everyday. Showing up to trainings and to company events is essential but it’s only one part of the story. It’s about showing up everyday in your own life, when no one is watching too. Making daily efforts to grow your business, to learn new skills, to be a leader all mean you are showing up.  Make showing up your new habit.

5. Self motivation.

The business dictionary gives the definition of self motivation as “Ability to do what needs to be done, without influence from other people or situations. People with self motivation can find a reason and strength to complete a task, even when challenging, without giving up or needing another to encourage them.” Essentially they have listened to the training, they have a vision, they have a goal and they work towards it. 

The great thing is that choosing to be an entrepreneur isn't dependant  on your background, your education or your past. It's only dependant on what you are willing to do now, today, and the steps you need to take to a better tomorrow.  With these five traits you can change lives, fulfil your dreams and live a life of freedom. 

The 4 Reasons Mummy Guilt is Ruining Your Life and How to Fix it.

1. Guilt is a wasted emotion and a thief of time

This will be the title of my first book. 

Guilt wasn’t just a glass ceiling for me it was a monster that was screaming in my face “YOU SHOULDN’T BE DOING THIS”

You know the feeling…the one that creeps into your belly every time you think about doing anything that might even slightly be construed to being about you. It makes you feel a bit sick, you worry that you are being selfish and if it’s ok…and you haven’t even done anything yet! You start to over think all the things that might happen and before you know it months, even years have passed and nothing has changed. You still (so desperately) need to do something for yourself but the guilt has become a thief of time. 

2. Serves No Purpose

So is guilt serving you or stopping you? Think about what that feeling has brought you so far in your life? Is guilt bringing you joy, happiness and all the things you want in life or is it bringing you nasty feelings in your chest, mean voices in your head and the same problems you faced before? I am going to go out on a limb here and guess the latter. 

3. Holds us back

Just stop for a second, now think about all the things you would love to do. I don’t just mean “Climb Mount Everest” though that most certainly should be on the list if that’s your goal. I am talking about the every day things that you want to and should be doing to save your sanity and your soul. You want to do yoga once a week? You want to eat healthier? You want to just have a cup of tea in peace! What’s stopping you? Is it just guilt? You are the centre of your children's universe and by taking time out to maintain your SELF you are helping them. You will feel better inside and out and in turn this will help them too. 

4. Gives us Excuses

Change is hard. The day we decide we will start exercising more or eating better for example is the day we need to take action. As soon as we start to think about it, mummy guilt is one of those things that might creep in to stop us.

Ever hear yourself say something like “Yeah but the kids need me to “insert task here” so it wouldn’t be fair of me to go” And there you have it…guilt just gave you another excuse not to do something you know you need to be doing for yourself. 

How can we fix it?

The first thing we need to do is be aware of the little voice in our heads. The little voice that makes us alllll the stories and excuses for us. Can you hear what it’s saying to you?

Maybe you are stuck in an old pattern of always putting others first and never doing anything for yourself. How is that working out for you? Often we are run down mentally and phyiscally and stuck in the same loop in our head “I shouldn’t do that, it wouldn’t be fair if I did that, I can’t because of the kids, There is no time for me”

YOU are in charge of YOU.

Once upon a time you put yourself last and now it’s become a habit. You might not even realise you are doing it anymore. Then you get to the end of the day and you are exhuasted in every way.

Let me give you a little secret

Leans in and whispers

*It’s ok to put yourself first. The kids need you, so they need you to be well, to be happy, to be fulfliled. However that looks for you.*

You are also teaching them a valuable lesson. That in order to serve others to the best of your ability you need to sort yourself first. 

You can’t fill a tank from an empty bucket.

What do they say in every plane safety announcement…you need to put your oxygen mask on first before helping others…and the same is true for your life.  

You can't pour from an empty cup, take care of yourself first

5 steps to finding out your life's purpose.

Knowing what your life's purpose is can seem like a never ending quest. If you have wondered about your life's purpose you are not alone. 

On Amazon there are 67,085 books about how you can work it out. Overwhelming much!

Adam Leipzig in his amazing TED talk says it's more simple than we think. In only 5 questions anyone can work out their life's purpose.

Who you are, what you do, who you do it for, what those people want and need, and how they change as a result. 

Who you are is the easiest step...That's you, your name. 

What you do: If you hate what you do at the moment then think about what you love to do. What brings you joy? Is it painting, being creative, designing, crunching numbers, teaching, helping people. If a lot comes into your mind then think about: what are you so great at that you could teach other people all about it too.

Who you do it for: Family, clients, the list could be endless. It's what matters to you.

What do all those people want or need: What do they want or need that you have, that they’ve come to you so you can give them this thing. 

How do people change or transform as a result of what you give them.

Now put it all together in one sentence. 

Adam then goes on to say:

"Now, why is that formulation so powerful? Because of all of those five things that you need to know to know what your life purpose is, only two are about yourself. The other three of them are about other people: who they are, what they want or need, and how they change as a result.

That formulation forces you to be outward facing. And all the happier people that I met were outward facing, they were not inward facing. They knew very clearly whom they served, what those people needed, and how those people changed as a result.