Is fear holding you back?

We are born with only two innate fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud sounds, the rest we learn along the way. Sometimes are fears are things we have picked up through and experience and sometimes we have taken on fears of others through our family and friends.

Your brain works in many ways to keep you safe.. but it can also be off kilter... it perceives so many things as a danger. In fact your brain will send out a warning signal each and every single time you do anything for the first time.

“Ohhh you won't be good at this, ohhh watch out this is hard... be careful!!” It screeches. 

Most of the time you are not in any danger at all and you just need to tell you brain to pipe down!

“Thanks for the warning brain but I have got this”

If you are brave enough to push through these signals and give it a go anyway there is nothing quite like that feeling of achievement.

In the meantime you could be spending anything from a minute to weeks feeling scared about something you know you want to or should be doing and we all know that's not a nice feeling.

So for now...think about something that you did in the past that you were fearful off but then you pushed through and did it anyway. Remember how good to felt afterwards, how rewarding the experience was and how it really wasn't as bad as you thought it was going to be in the first place. 

Use that feeling now...hold that feeling...and tell your brain it's going to feel great this time too. It's called a future facing feeling. Don't think about your fear right now, think instead about how great you know it will feel afterwards. 

Literally…tell yourself…

“Hey brain.. gonna do a presentation at work today, I am going to smash it and it's going to feel so good!

Every time you feel like you might throw up about it or even stop yourself from doing it altogether tell yourself

“I will smash it, I will be awesome” over and over and over.

Let this mantra become the only truth. Flood your mind with this new thought so there is no room for the fear. Let this be the only way... 

By the time you do the thing you were so fearful of it will be a walk in the park. 

Your comfort zone isn't comfortable at all.

We are creatures of habit…programmed to do what feels safe, what feels comfortable and what conserves the most energy. This is why we are drawn to staying to bed, watching endless hours of netflix and taking the easy option. 

But in order to thrive and not just survive…in order to achieve the extraordinary and not just the ordinary we need to shove ourselves up and out of the comfort zone more often. 

Actually…I really dislike the term comfort zone. Mainly because for most people it’s not comfortable at all. The things I mentioned above are like junk food for the soul…great at the time but make us feel yuck afterwards. 

It can be comfortable to say, "I will do that tomorrow" or "Forget it, I wouldn’t have been any good at that anyway," but it really doesn’t feel comfortable afterwards does it? In fact that “comfort zone” can fuel anxiety, stress and that horrible, ”I should have done” feeling.

So I won’t call it the comfort zone, it’s more like the submission centre we are submitting to the side of ourselves that wants an easy life and let ourselves off the hook. Not because of self care or preservation but simply because we can’t be bothered.

Change the excuse you are giving to yourself from what you are saying right now to “It’s not a priority” and see how that feels.

"I don’t wanna work out"  verses "My health is not a priority." 

Not so comfortable now is it…

"I don’t wanna work hard" verses "My future is not a priority." 

You can do more and you do deserve better. Don’t let yourself off the hook.

Practice makes better.

You need to be kinder to yourself when you are learning a new skill.

It’s like a teaching a child to read or write for the first time. They don’t bring home their first project from school and you go “Woooww that’s terrible! I can hardly read that! You should give up now little dude”

Of course not! You say, “That’s amazing, I can’t believe you wrote that! You are getting better and better watch time, keep going buddy”

Why not afford yourself the same grace when learning a new skill? 

Sooo you messed up the first time, and second time that’s ok! You didn’t fail, you learned and next time you will be better. 

You can do it! 

Practise your new skills every day. 

If you want to get paid more than a lawyer or a doctor does then you need to invest the time to study too. To hone your craft.

It’s like a student doctor going nahhh I don’t learn that I will just start with surgery.

As Eric Worre said “ If you don’t study, if you don’t practise you are going out there like a blunt instrument on the world” 

Are you willing to invest in you? For things to change YOU have to change, for things to get better YOU have to get better. 

Your income will never exceed your personal growth or your investment in yourself. 

Personal growth and development will make you better, stronger, wiser! 

If you have no time…when turn your car into a drive time university. There are spaces and pockets in our everyday which we can use to make things better.

If you have no time now…invest more of it…so that in the future you can become free of its constraints. 

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You have a choice.

May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears - Nelson Mandela

If you like helping people this business will give you everything you need. We all want to be part of something bigger than ourselves. It gives people purpose so they can follow their passion. 

It’s about freedom.

Everyone wants to feel free.

Everyone dreams of a life where they can have that freedom of choice, financial freedom, the ability to live how and where you want. 

But it can’t just be about you. the world doesn’t owe you anything.

It’s about being part of something bigger.

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Secret Life Hack

One Thing you can do right now to work out what you want. 

If you can’t work out what you want to do with your life when work out what you don’t want. Often it’s an easier mindset for people to tap into at first. 

Once you have worked out what you don’t want in your life, then write a list of 5 successful people that you admire. 

What is it about them that you like? What similar traits do you they have? What traits do you have in common with them?

Chances are you admire them as they are some things in them you see in yourself and that’s what resonates in you.

Ask yourself…what would I do for no money? What do others say you are great at all the time?

Often we know exactly what we need to do  or what we would love to be doing it’s just a matter of unlocking those skills, or at least admitting them to ourselves! 

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The Top 5 Traits of Successful Entrepreneurs.

Everyone dreams of a life where they can have freedom of choice. Freedom from the 9-5, freedom of time and eventually financial freedom. But do you have what it takes?

1. True grit

Having true grit means that you can see the long goal, you have a powerful motivation to achieve the long goal and this perseverance means you can get over any hurdles or obstacles that fall into your path along the way. You are the driving force to realising your own dreams and goals and you don’t let challenges stand in your way. 

Being on entrepreneur requires dedication and endurance. 

2. Positive thinkers

The physical and mental benefits of being a positive thinker is so greatly overlooked. Words that you speak, not just out loud, but also to yourself have the power to transform the energy around you and either create a wonderful reality or conjure up a shit storm. 

Positive thinkers understand business is hard but their attitude means they are willing to work through the hard times and they have an expectation of success and happiness. It’s not about ignoring the tough times, it’s about thinking, “What am I learning here?” and not “Why me?” It’s an key part to effective stress management too. 

3. Never stop growing and learning

Being a student of the world around you not only means you learn the new skills you need to run your business, it also means that you can get rid of old beliefs and assumptions and open your mind to new ideas and information. Your personal growth is just as important as your business growth if you want to be a success. Being open minded also means you will be coachable. Learning from what successful people in network marketing have done and following the systems in place for you gives you your best chance of smashing this business. 

4. They show up.

Showing up is making committed, consistent effort in your business everyday. Showing up to trainings and to company events is essential but it’s only one part of the story. It’s about showing up everyday in your own life, when no one is watching too. Making daily efforts to grow your business, to learn new skills, to be a leader all mean you are showing up.  Make showing up your new habit.

5. Self motivation.

The business dictionary gives the definition of self motivation as “Ability to do what needs to be done, without influence from other people or situations. People with self motivation can find a reason and strength to complete a task, even when challenging, without giving up or needing another to encourage them.” Essentially they have listened to the training, they have a vision, they have a goal and they work towards it. 

The great thing is that choosing to be an entrepreneur isn't dependant  on your background, your education or your past. It's only dependant on what you are willing to do now, today, and the steps you need to take to a better tomorrow.  With these five traits you can change lives, fulfil your dreams and live a life of freedom.